I love the insight of Tom Robbins. Here are some of my favorite quotes...
"When we're incomplete, we're always searching for somebody to complete us. When, after a few years or a few months of a relationship, we find that we're still unfulfilled, we blame our partners and take up with somebody more promising. This can go on and on--series polygamy--until we admit that while a partner can add sweet dimensions to our lives, we, each of us, are responsible for our own fulfillment. Nobody else can provide it for us, and to believe otherwise is to delude ourselves dangerously and to program for eventual failure every relationship we enter.”
“Love is the ultimate outlaw. It just won't adhere to any rules. The most any of us can do is to sign on as its accomplice. Instead of vowing to honor and obey, maybe we should swear to aid and abet. That would mean that security is out of the question. The words "make" and "stay" become inappropriate. My love for you has no strings attached. I love you for free.”
“To achieve the impossible; it is precisely the unthinkable that must be thought.”
“Our Similarities bring us to a common ground; Our Differences allow us to be fascinated by each other”
“There is no such thing as a weird human being, It's just that some people require more understanding than others”
“We're our own dragons as well as our own heroes, and we have to rescue ourselves from ourselves.”
“The highest function of love is that it makes the loved one a unique and irreplaceable being.”
“When two people meet and fall in love, there's a sudden rush of magic. Magic is just naturally present then. We tend to feed on that gratuitous magic without striving to make any more. One day we wake up and find that the magic is gone. We hustle to get it back, but by then it's usually too late, we've used it up. What we have to do is work like hell at making additional magic right from the start. It's hard work, but if we can remember to do it, we greatly improve our chances of making love stay.”
“True stability results when presumed order and presumed disorder are balanced. A truly stable system expects the unexpected, is prepared to be disrupted, waits to be transformed.”
“The bottom line is that (a) people are never perfect, but love can be, (b) that is the one and only way that the mediocre and vile can be transformed, and (c) doing that makes it that. We waste time looking for the perfect lover, instead of creating the perfect love.”
Do me a favor and read that last one again, okay?
"We waste time looking for the perfect lover instead of creating
the perfect love."
This is my favorite. Who hasn't seen evidence of this, either in
their own life or the lives around them? There comes a point in
every relationship where the fog is lifted... the euphoria
subsides, the warm fuzzies turn room temperature, and love becomes
(in part, at least) practical. Sing me a song, write me a poem,
tell me you love me, but until we've cleaned the kitchen together
or paid the bills or raked the yard, what does it mean? A real
and lasting love takes work. Lots of work. Anything that's worth
doing, though, is worth doing (from time to time, anyway) with
sweat on your brow and tears in your eyes. Yes?
